My dad is one of the wisest men I know. This stands true even with his daily Obama rants (eye roll).
As a child, my dad hammered a saying into my young, brain-sponge:
“It’s never wrong to do the right thing.”
As a new parent, these words have never been truer during the holidays, namely Christmas (re: Finally Something We Can Agree On: Not Splitting Santa or Halving Hanukkah).
It’s never wrong to do the right thing by…
- Buying Andrew’s cousins Christmas gifts and cards for the adults. Why punish the kids or act mean-spirited?
- Acting gracious. Giving my ex a visitation extension for Friday, December 26th with his regularly scheduled weekend visitation. It benefits Andrew, even if I will selfishly miss him.
- Sharing Andrew’s daycare artwork. I have one of Rudolph. His dad can have the Christmas tree painting.
- Wishing his family a happy holiday during drop-off. No one likes a Grinch!
- Not bugging my ex’s family for text updates about my son’s well being. My mom disagrees, but I think this type of “check in” does more harm than good. It passive-aggressively calls into question their judgement for a four day visitation.
My attempt at living an “enlightened” life.
Enlightened living: Meaning and mindfulness in everyday life.